Well it has all been remarkably smooth and straight forward it have a date Wednesday this week for dd2 s adoption to be finalised. No hiccups no nothing the ss report is glowing, dd is 8 months old and doing great. I love her so so very much. She looks to me all the time, she is ways in my arms, she knows I am her mama, I have no doubts at all. Her progress has been incredible I'm so so proud.
I'm ok just having another of my wobbles that I wish it were different just for a moment. Her bm has co operated totally, never fought never asked for her child. Maybe there truly is nothing left of the girl who was my friend, maybe the drugs really have taken every piece of her. But she's not a monster, she's done bad things there is a difference. The report ss did is so so damning and I know I do know she 'deserves' every word but I still want to just cry for my friend, the friend who once flung herself into stinging nettles when we were kids when I tripped so I didn't get stung.
My eldest dd raised by her bm until the ages of 8 suffered so so much at her hands and yet can see and understand more than she should it's not all black and white. She is glad I don't condemn Her bm and can tell her some good things.
I choose to see it that she has co operated because she know and wants what is best for her baby and that this is it, I have to cling to that maybe it makes me a fool but for my two dds sake I really believe that. Ss seem to think she did it because she couldn't care less and wanted free without a care, which she has of course. Wherever she is now she is totally free, any contact is court prohibited (complex legal issues) she would go to prison if she came anywhere near my eldest dd.
Urgh I don't even know what I'm trying to say, I miss my friend, I wish I could have done more, though I don't know how. I am happy but feel guilty too, I have everything she lost everything whether she knows it or not - I do and Just sometimes it still hurts.
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Mama1980 · 13/07/2014 08:13
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