School, arrggghhhh :(

(11 Posts)
RudolphLovesoftplay Wed 20-Nov-13 05:57:01

I wish I could home school, it would be the perfect solution, anyway, today......

I get home from work and check with my DH that he picked up the DLA forms from the SENCO at school. SENCO is notorious for being a bit lazy, and I have had to push him to get stuff done in the past, he has never attended any of the meeting about my DS and there has been loads grin Anyway, he had completed his bits in the forms, however, it mentions nothing of the 1:1 help my DS has, nothing about his aggression, nothing about the fact he is about a year behind where he should be, nothing about the social isolation. In fact all he has written.....littlerudolph initially settled in well, has now displayed issues that we are trying to resolve. That's it!!!!!!

He also put DS IEP in the envelope, except it's a copy and past job. To the extent that it has someone else's history at the top, including names, DOB, full history of this child's social problems!!!
I admit to getting a bit cross, and went to the school. Saw DS class teacher, who to be fair, was exceptionally apologetic and had the good grace to admit she had only done the targets today as a rush job sad I am fed up fighting to get the best for my son at school, I know they have 29 other pupils, but my DS is entitled to an education that meets his needs.

Anyway, rant over sad Does anyone have any experience of private schools and adopted children? This is an option for us, but want to make an informed decision.
Thanks for listening grin

dietstartstmoz Wed 20-Nov-13 06:13:04

Hi rudolph. I don't have any experience of private schools or adoption but I do have a son in mainstream primary who has autism. He has 1-2-1 support, IEP, Statement etc. I am sorry you are having such a difficult time with the senco (although I think many of us do). You could post on the sn children boards for advice. Lots of knowledge and advice and a warm welcome too.

goshhhhhh Wed 20-Nov-13 06:30:30

Go & see the head. Talk to them or if all else fails talk to your chair of governors. They will want to know. Even if you decide to move school, you could be altruistic and raise for other children.

roslet Thu 21-Nov-13 21:42:12

Definitely insist upon seeing the headteacher and chair of governors. What a spectacularly useless SENCO. Hopefully they can transfer this role to another member of staff.
Wishing you and your family the very best.

I am not sure that many private schools are geared up for SEN beyond the mildly dyslexic. Though I would love a flurry of MNetters to prove me wrong.

Your DS would be at the top of any state school's waiting list though - if he has been adopted having at some point been in care (I think).

ooerrmissus Thu 21-Nov-13 21:57:25

Don't have much personal experience of private schools and Senco but just to say in my DCs (private) school there are several kids with asd, a couple with Pdd and ds1 has a lovely girl in his class who has downs. This school has only 150 kids so tiny! It does very much depend on the school. The one major benefit they have is small classes and that can be an enormous help. Good luck op hope you can get this sorted.

lunar1 Thu 21-Nov-13 22:04:40

My ds is at private school, they accept children with additional needs I'm not sure how the extra support is funded though. I can't imagine adoption is a problem for any school though.

lunar1 Thu 21-Nov-13 22:08:46

I should add that the only reason I know this it that ds1 comes out of class twice a week for one of his friends salt sessions as it helps him concentrate. I hope my first post didn't come across like I'm being nosy about the other children.

Shoutymomma Thu 21-Nov-13 22:15:03

Jebus.... another child's personal information at the top of your child's forms??? That is disgraceful. Have no experience of private education, but feel strongly that you should not have to take that route to get a good education for your son. I'm gobsmacked.

allthingswillpass Sat 23-Nov-13 22:11:08

I have a little experience of private schools.
In a lot of them, 1-2-1 (taken out of class) to have lessons with a special needs teacher are often charged as an extra on top of school fees.
Each school is different and some are academically focused, others are not and are more than happy to have children with additional needs.
Small classes are of great benefit - have you investigated Steiner schools?
Good luck

TeenAndTween Mon 25-Nov-13 14:49:36

Friend's Adopted child was at mid range private school. It was suggested the child 'might be better placed elsewhere'. They didn't want to couldn't cope with his emotional/behavioural needs.

I don't think it is a private v state issue tbh. Just some schools are much more clued up / flexible than others.

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