My DS is 4 in a week. His behaviour over the last couple of weeks has been different:
More sensitive and really anxious at times.
Bit more clingy and doesn't want me out of sight.
Wetting himself. (He is still not reliably dry but 8 accidents yesterday!!)
Lots of adoption related question and asking if he can stay with us forever etc, asking if we would only keep him forever if he was a good boy and wishing he was with me when he was a baby etc.
After trying to figure out what it's all about the penny dropped that all his nursery friends have been leaving in droves and there is a load of new kids in his room. It seems like he feels like the rug's been pulled out from under him and is struggling.
So, he is at my parents this afternoon so I went to nursery to speak to this key worker (as I usually struggle get chance to speak to her without DS being there and it's usually pretty chaotic at the beginning and end of the day). She has a masters in Family Studies and has worked in adoption and fostering so I thought she'd get it. Clearly not.
I came away feeling like I was a Mum being a bit too 'precious' and that she thinks I'm making a fuss over nothing an he'll be fine. It was the look on her face and her saying "well the kids who are leaving will be struggling with the transition too".
Am i being too precious??? I don't feel like I am. He is struggling, and as his Mum it's my job to try and help him. All I was doing was making her aware and asking that she be sensitive to it. Instead I have come home feeling like they all think I'm a fruit loop.
I get this every time I mention any adoption related behaviour to anyone not in adoption circles. I need to grow a thicker skin don't I?
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Is there anyone outside adoption circles that 'get it'? Do i need a thicker skin?
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flossymuldoon · 03/09/2013 15:29
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