Can anyone advise me on having a child 'known as' the adopter's last name before AO? I've posted before about my upcoming DD who will hopefully be coming to me in September just as she turns 5, and starting school in January. I had thought that the best thing would be for her to be called by my last name when she starts school, so she learns to write her name as that, and other children meet her as that name, to avoid her having to answer questions she might not want to answer post AO about why her name has changed. Today I got the matching papers through and one of the 'restrictions on my parental responsibility' listed as well as not being able to take out of the country, consent to surgery etc is that I must not cause or allow her to be known by anything other than her birth name before AO.
Is this standard wording does anyone know, or something my LA has put in? I was thinking of asking at panel for her to be allowed to be 'known as' at school, for the reasons I've said which I think are in her best interest. Are they likely to take this on board and make a decision case by case or is it a blanket rule? Cos if it is frankly I'd rather not bring it up and plead ignorance if they don't like it later, than ask now and have them say no and then be looking out to check I haven't done it, IYSWIM. I know there's a lot of variation of what adopters do in practice, does anyone know if it's a national requirement and some LAs turn a blind eye or if it's a local requirement? Thanks
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Bananaketchup · 03/07/2013 19:25
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