We have 2 BC age 6 and 3 and are pretty much at the end of the line trying for a 3rd after recurrent miscarriages. We are both from large families and had always planned to have a large family (3 or 4 children) of our own, so we have been exploring other options. We feel we have a lot to offer to a child.
We've been looking into adoption and come across a lot of negativity wrt adopting into families with BC. I've had info packs from a few agencies and an initial chat with a social worker, but we wouldn't be considered anyway until more time has elapsed after our decision to stop TTC, which I completely understand. By the time that has happened and we had been through the process of applying and hopefully being approved it's likely our boys would both be settled at school and we'd be thinking of a younger child.
I'd be very interested to hear from anyone who has adopted or been approved to adopt with BC on the following issues (or any other comments)
- How did it affect the type of child you were prepared to adopt and given that most children needing adoption have additional needs did that make it difficult to get a match?
- How has an adopted child fitted into your family?
- How do you feel about the adopted child compared to your own children? And how do they feel about each other?
- What was the reaction from agencies when you approached them as a potential adopter with BC?
If anyone can recommend any books to read I'd also appreciate that. We have 6 months or so to let our thoughts stew on this before deciding whether it's appropriate to take it further...