Hi all,
I'm new to these boards but facing a time of decision and thought this might be a helpful place to come.
I was adopted myself and had a very difficult experience of it for many reasons. Having had a very turbulent few years, I am now in a much better place having benefited from psychotherapy and am now in a very stable place in my life with a wonderful husband, career and home.
My husband and I have recently discovered that we will be unable to have children. This is devastating to me and I am coming to terms with the fact that the 'natural' course of events that I didn't experience during childhood will not be an option as an adult either.
We have always wanted children and I know we have much to offer as parents. But I know I have not sufficiently moved on from my own 'stuff' not to see myself as somewhat 'damaged' by my experiences and therefore worry I would project this onto any child we might adopt and see them also as 'damaged' and 'second best'.
My feeling is that this shows I am not in right place to be thinking about adoption and that we should wait for a few years and get on with other things in our lives before considering this again when perhaps my grief is less raw. But my husband is so keen to start a family soon.
Any thoughts?
Caitlin
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caitlin1982 · 21/04/2013 12:13
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