Fair warning in the title. I'm in a bloody bad mood right now
DD2 and her wonderful-lovely-clearly-better-than-me mummy have been continuing their lovey-dovey reunion. Which is so clearly to me chaotic. Their 'decisions' are all all ill thought out, spur of the moment. They have been doing more and more together - movies, shopping, eating out, going to the park. Don't know where mum gets the money from. DD has some nice new toys, dvd's, cd's etc from mum
Who is completely as self centred as DD. She is unable to consider her actions or their consequences. She is unable to grasp what DD's needs are and unable to give her boundaries. For instance she buys DD whatever she wants as long as she has the money with her. DD has the new Barbie doll and Bratz doll she liked the look of. But mum, unable to grasp the implications of her wanting this kind of thing aged 17, loans her a film she liked herself - an 18 rated gory horror movie
Likewise DD is unable to grasp that her mother actually has her own wants, needs and expectations. She thinks in terms of getting what she wants only
Neither of them can consider or realise the fact that reunion is a two way street requiring giving and understanding on the parts of both sides..let alone actually understand or give to each other.
Of course I know this can't end well in the long term. This isn't how a relationship works, not any relationship of any kind works out on this basis. Indeed even now DD sometimes will express mild annoyance over things her mother did or said because it wasn't exactly what DD wanted her to say or do. Annoyance that her mother's every word and actions do not entirely correspond with what she would like.
I don't want to sit here and wait for DD to get hurt, for them to have a massive falling out which seems inevitable. But i don't really have any other options
If you're wondering where SS are, wonder no longer. I would like them to be at the seaside, taking a long walk off a short pier. But SS don't do what you want. In reality they're at the public baths, having a deep cleansing ritual to fully wash their hands and minds of the responsibility of helping my family. Only PASW was on my side. But crucially, not her manager. At least PASW really tried to help. We are still in a little contact, fat lot of good it is though.
Oh and the bastard letterbox coordinator just sent a reminder to me to send in my letterbox letter about DS. I'M NOT BLOODY DOING ONE. He doesn't want me to. He wants nothing to do with her. I told coordinator this. Doesn't bloody listen.
DS is miserable and angry about this by the way. I'm so angry at DD and her mother for doing this to him. Poor little boy i want to wrap him in cotton wool and shield him from this. I even feel guilty about my decision to adopt him. I pushed for it. But he's suffering because of DD2 and her problems :(
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Lilka · 18/04/2013 16:43
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