Hi, our two daughters have been with us now for just over 3 months.
The eldest (3 in April) is a nightmare at naptime or bedtime and pretty much has been since she moved in. She wasn't really in any kind of routine at the foster home and wasn't really getting much sleep - waking at 4am because she 'just did'.
We have a good routine that she loves, we talk about what we are doing tomorrow after bathtime, then they have a little cup of milk,her sister goes to bed just before her (mainly so she doesn't get woken!), then she practically runs upstairs for reading.
She seems to want our attention constantly so hates going to bed but we're unsure of what to do! I have a doctors appointment on Monday to get her adenoids checked as she does snore very loudly and often wakes coughing and spluttering.
If she doesn't have her nap or lack of sleep she just can't cope and has tantrum after tantrum - I have teeth marks in my arm from Wednesday still, not to mention the throwing and spitting!! And her little sister (2 in March) just gets pushed around.
We have tried sitting with her but then she wants to sit on us, then gets a book, she just won't lie down. If we put her back in bed she giggles and runs out continuously. She will basically just scream and scream until she falls asleep - naptime today was just 20 minutes but my poor DH is up there now for just over half an hour and she's stopped screaming but knocking on walls and flicking switches. There's never any tears so it does seem to be attention -could it be seperation anxiety?
Our SW hasn't been much help and thinks it's just a phase and will pass - although she did mention checking with the doctor. Her speech is also quite delayed.
Has anybody else experienced this? It's just hard to know if it is because of the move or is this just standard toddler stuff? After over 3 months it's getting quite draining!
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Ladyofthehouse · 25/01/2013 20:02
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