As some of you might know, we had a 4 year old ad placed with us about 6 months ago. She has settled really well, very smiley generally and loving school, making friends, eating and sleeping well etc... Don't get me wrong, she has been pushing boundaries all over the place and regressing at times and there have been some meltdowns, but overall doing v v well. All social workers are thrilled and she does seem very happy.
The problem is me. I am just not warming to her and it's not her fault as she clearly wants to bond with me. By this stage just having her here feels pretty normal but I don't love her and find her irritating at times. I don't thinking i show it, DH would tell me if I did. I find it really hard to cuddle her or kiss her and I hate myself for it. All adoptive parents I know and social workers say it will come, but I do worry that it won't. I have a birth child too and adore him and feel so worried that I'll never feel anything like that for her.
Would really appreciate hearing from other adopters about how and when love came or if it never did.
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jenny60 · 11/11/2012 10:17
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