Hello,
This is a very very early question as I haven't properly decided if I wish to adopt.
I wanted to know about people's experiences regarding adoption after having a biologically related child. I am due to have my first child in the next few days but I don't ever want to go through this again. I had three months of being in and out of hospital with constant vomiting and the rest of the time has been agony with back pain and hip pain. It's been so demoralising and my DH had to do everything for me (cleaning, washing, cooking). I don't want both of us to go through it again, but I don't want my DC to grow up without a sibling.
Does anyone have any experience of this and can it work out well? My DF is very negative about this as he had one biological child and one adopted child (that he adopted when the DC was 3) and says that it doesn't really compare to having 'your own' child, but I've always thought that it was because of the other family issues that he had going on at the time (many and various) as well as adopting his DC2 quite late on.
Thanks
P.S. Please don't get offended when I've said about my dad's opinions about having 'your own' DC as opposed to adopting. He had a lot of family problems that made it difficult for him to establish a good bond with his adopted DC and his opinions do not reflect my own.
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WhenLifeGivesYouLemons · 17/10/2012 18:52
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