Over two years after our daughter joined us, it seems that we are finally getting an agreement about letterbox contact. Now the birth mother has asked to send birthday cards. Does anybody have any experience of or advice on this?
My immediate impulse is to say yes: surely our child will like to feel that her birth mother thinks of her at this time of year? But it also occurs to me that the arrival of cards on or around her birthday may overshadow the event in years to come (which is why adoption agencies often recommend not having letterbox contact at that time). I suppose it would be an option to keep the cards from her till she is older, but is it ethical to agree to this if we may not them honour the request to pass them on? The birth mother's life is very chaotic - how will it feel for our child if birthday cards DON'T arrive?
Any advice gratefully received.
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Birthday cards from birth parents - good idea?
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Devora · 24/09/2012 22:38
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