If anyone would be willing to share with me how they bonded with their child during the adoption process or afterwards, I would be very grateful to hear, please.
I have not adopted yet. I do have a birth child. When she was born I was very ill for a few days (well I felt very ill even if it was not life threatening!) and was in hospital for about 10 days. I did not really start to bond for a number of days until we were home from the hospital.
I've had lots of contact with kids, helping with them in creches, schools etc and I am trying to imagine creating a new bond with a child older than a baby and how that happens. I expect it is different for everyone and maybe there are no tips, but just to understand a bit how it feels would be helpful, please.
After 7 and a half years I feel my bond with my birth DD is still growing (and maybe always will) so I am sure it is very hard to pin down how you feel about your beloved children.
I find thinking about adoption both scary and exciting. I guess as we wait for it all to unfold I am just wanting to educate and inform myself as much as I can!
I know this is a potentially very private area so I will not be at all offended if my thread drops off the end with no one replying. If any brave souls do reply I would be very grateful.
I would also be delighted to hear of any links to sites with interesting articles. I have tried buying a couple of books on adoption but I am not an avid reader and the first I dived into has left me a bit cold! So I thought I would ask you ladies, please, if anyone wishes to share......
Thank you.
Here are some suggested organisations that offer expert advice on adoption.
Adoption
How does it happen - bonding?
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