Hi all,
My son is 3.9 and came to us at 16 months old. Things have been good on the whole (DS has speech delay and some issues around resulting behaviour problems). But, over the last few months he has been increasingly resistant to any form of affection from me. He is fine with his Dad, who can kiss and cuddle him with no problems, but if I kiss him he gets very agitated and insists I 'wipe it away'. He doesn' even want a cuddle or a kiss from me at bedtime and if I try he reacts very negatively. He stimes gives me cuddles, but not very often and only if I ask. I do still try to show him affection.
If he wakes in the night he also gets really upset if I get up to see him, and shouts for Daddy, pushing me away and saying 'Not You! Go Away!'. I'm getting more and more upset by this and I can't just see it as a phase or something to not worry about as my DH insists that I should. I just think its more than that but I feel like no-one is listening to me.
I spend hours with my son, I do work, but every other moment I spend with him, playing or making sure he has attention and love. He does demand a lot of attention and struggles to do anything on his own, he usually follows me everywhere or insists on knowing exactly where I am (he still comes to the loo with me!). It seems he realy needs my attention but not my affection, if you see what I mean?
Am I worrying unecessarily??? Just dont know what else to do...
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TowMater · 16/05/2012 13:36
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