I was adopted in the 60s. I have recently had my file opened which has included more of the factual details.
I had always grown up knowing that i was adopted, and had a brilliant childhood with a very loving family. It is further medical information that i am looking for in the hope that it may help my children - although i would be lying if i said that i would not be interested in meeting my birth family 
I have my BMs d.o.b - but cannot find a birth certificate to match. After some searching i found it overseas. There seems to be discrepancies over the year 
. I can guess why - if she was a year younger, the conception would have taken place prior to the age of 16 .....
I just wondered what checks do they make when a child is given up for adoption on the voracity of the documents given to them?
What responsibilities do the adoption agencies have in checking these documents?
As an aside - my adopted mum had always said that my BM was 15 - so i was a little surprised when the documents didn't support this as she had got all the other details right - perhaps it was a nudge nudge wink wink from the social worker that mum went by and not the facts?
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auntevil · 01/09/2011 08:34
Thanks Kristina - I have my DH - who is supportive in an unsupportive way. He's very factual and clinical - and points out the pitfalls. I also have a couple of good friends who share the emotional side more and ask the 'what if' type questions.
I haven't told any of my adoptive family. Unfortunately, they are few and far between now. I only have 1 uncle in his 80s who has just lost his wife, and my mum - who is end stages alzheimers. The rest of the family live the other side of the world and there's not that many there either!
Strangely enough it feels a bit 'first date' like 
. You want to know them, but you don't yet. Could be a disaster, could go well, will they like me, will i like them etc etc. It's that nervous and excited feeling at the same time - very weird to get this feeling so late in life!
I would have gone through an intermediary if I could have got an address for her before contact was made with a member of the family. But unfortunately - as in the original post - there is a discrepancy in birth years and i needed to make sure i had the right person. could you imagine if they really were 2 different people - and i picked the wrong one to write to 
Another quick update. I got an e-mail from a search company that i had been using and where you can put your family tree. It was inviting me to view a tree. I have a half brother - and not just 1! - 4!
Still very vague on my BM's birth year!
I might be reading too much into this, but for the tree access to be sent to me by the half brother, means that i must have been discussed?
I feel exactly like hester put it - excited, but my nerves are most definitely 'wracked'
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