We have just started seeing a therapist, specifically specialising in attachment theory and working with looked after/adopted children/families. She spent two months working with DD doing specific Life Story Work which was very helpful for DD and therefore for us as a family. She is now spending some time with DH and myself addressing our Secondary Trauma, which I feel (for myself at least) is pretty severe.
We had a first session on Tuesday and I spent most of the time crying. I am finding it hard to reflect on the session and feel a bit sad and hopeless about the situation. She says that secondary trauma/carer fatigue can be helped and healed, but I am feeling particularly hopeless and emotionally struggling with DD. How can I be helped and healed when DD's attachment stuff is so present all the time...?
We've had her nearly 8 years and I think we have been being ground down and ground down for all of that time. I love our therapist for being there to help rebuild some of that which has been ground down, but it is the hopelessness that is so crippling. I think my feelings are not helped by my being pregnant with our third birth child. Sorry for the long post, but I just wondered if anyone has either had therpay specifically for secondary trauma or whether my feelings resonate at all. Above all just wanted to share. MPD
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misspollysdolly · 10/03/2011 17:33
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