Hi this is my first post so go easy! Quick potted history,I was adopted in the mid 70's, had a good childhood, although riddled with insecurities/rebellious tendencies in teens and twenties, (how relevant this is to being adopted I don't know).
I now have two children and recently, for various reasons decided to apply for my birth/adoption records, not with a view to making contact, more for medical history, curiosity.
I got my file on Monday and have been completely headf**d ever since. It transpires that my birth father was opposed to the adoption and only caved in after a lot of persuasion, and I have now discovered from snooping on the internet (i know, i know..) that my birth mother and father got back together and married the year after my adoption was finalised, the year after that they had a son together.
I can't really describe how this has affected me, I feel like I missed out on something which was rightfully mine by default, if that makes any sense at all, I really can't articulate this properly and almost regret opening this can of worms....
I would be so grateful for any perspective/similar experiences.advice??
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westcoastclassic · 12/11/2010 13:30
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