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Things overheard on the bus - warning might offend some. I was gobsmacked by it

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A girl gets off
"Oh look she's one of those dwarf people, you know like on Snow White. It's a pity really that they are about,it can't be good for them being so short"

Bus pulls up to a stop

"Oh here's that woman with all the kids getting on, she has about 3(yeah loads) of them and it's really annoying cos the driver waits till she folds up the buggy, some of us are in a hurry, she should get a later bus. Her husband left her you know and now she's living in that big house, she should have moved out and let him live in it with his new wife, his new wife's Dr x's daughter you know, instead they have to live in a council flat, and her there, she has a really big swanky tv and she gets all those benefits and look at her, no wonder he left (by this time the woman ahd sat down and could hear what was being said""

Bus comes up to another stop
"Oh here's that ________ (I refuse to put teh word she used in) boy, I think it's disgusting that people like him are allowed out on their own. they have homes for people like him. What if turns on one of us on this bus and murders us, or rapes us. Well maybe not rapes cos he probably don't know what his bits are for".
of course the boy in question, knowing me, came and sat next to me and do you know what the person speaking did?
She tapaped me on the shoulder and told me I shouldn't mix with "his sort".

Now if his sort was a paedophile I could understand, but he's a lovely lad who haapens to have Down's syndrome.

This whole conversation was taking place really loudly - even after the mum with her "loads of kids" got on they were still talking about her.

Anyway, when she said that to me, I turned round and said really loudly "When I'm old I hope I have more compassion and I'm not as bitter and horrible as you seem to be".

What is with some people? This woman must have been late 70s at least.. I really did want to slap her - god knows what she said about me when I got off
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 11:44:04
When I first read that, I thought it was teenagers making the comments. I am shocked by the old women bit.
Good for you for standing up for yourself. I generally do which emabarrases my dd.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 11:36:03
Thats interesting fairycake.

Actually, I dont think my MIL ever had that part of her brain in the first place grin

I am shocked by that womans comments though, and glad that you, Saltire were able to say something that hopefully put her in her place.

I probably would have shrivelled up a bit.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 11:34:50
but fairycake, surely they have to be thinking that stuff in the first place for it not to be "filtered" iyswim? And maybe they are more likely to think that stuff in the first place because of attitudes when they were younger?
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 11:32:13
My grandad (bless his soul) definately got more right wing (and vocal) as he got older. He used to be very left wing and accepting of all people. It got very embarrassing when out in public and he would start loudly explaining that "what is wrong with football today is all them bloody foreigners" - this would include players who were very much British but just happened to have darker skin
Aww she sounds delightful hmm She'd have got on fantastically with the woman who said to me on the bus a while ago that the prioity seats were for people who need them, and not "just for people that can't keep their legs together". Bless them...
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 11:30:11
that is appalling shock

well done for saying something an well done again for being so restrained.

just to try and add a positive note to reassure that not everyone is as utterly foul as this - earlier this year i took my 3 dcs and my sister away for a few days using only public transport. we took a lot of very crowded buses and i'm sure the evil witch the OP was descrbing would have had plenty to say:

i am relatively young (under 30 but look younger) to have 3 dcs. i am married, but my dh was not with us.

my sister has downs syndrome

we all had vast inconveniencing rucksacks

people couldnt have been nicer and more helpful - dd2 (age 2 at the time) had old ladies everywhere insisting she sat on their laps and lots of people helping us with our bags.

had i met the woman in the OP i think i might've belted her.

bus travellers of cardiff - thank you so much for your friendliness

so sorry and angry about your crappy experience OP.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 11:26:55
shock horrible woman
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Thu 05-Nov-09 11:21:11
I read an article once, ages ago, about the phenomenon of older people being jaw-droppingly rude and offensive - making spectacularly racist comments in public, etc. The author was refuting the idea that the reason it happens is because racism/sexism/hostility to disabled people etc were socially acceptable the people in question were younger; and suggested that it is actually because, as we age, the part of the brain that is affected first is the part that governs how we behave in social situations - the filter between your thoughts and your speech, so to speak.
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 22:38:23
lol at the tyres deflating every time the suspension is lowered.

You'd end up with hundreds of buses parked at the side of the road with flat tyres. grin
Add message | Report | Contact poster By Wed 04-Nov-09 16:40:56
What a horrible bitter twisted old woman!
Well done you on saying what you did.

The other day I was on the bus with my two dc (both under 5) and a single buggy and two official transport people sat behind me. When another buggy came on they complained in loud voices about how the bus driver shouldn't allow it as there was only meant to be one buggy on at a time and she should fold it. Hearing this the woman did attempt to fold it but in the end gave up (the bus had a handful of people on it, so not pressed for space). The bus driver had no problem with it but they went on to say that parents with buggys should give up their seat straight away for a wheelchair (I totally agree, but no wheelchair user was getting on). They then said that the mechanism that allows the bus to lower (if you know what I mean) 'buggers the hydraulics' as the air is let out the tyres a little every time if goes down that when the buses go into the depot their mechanics 'fix it' so this doesn't work anymore.

So all those out there struggling to get on a bus with a high step, or indeed a mum with a buggy or wheelchair user,the reason the bus can't 'lower' is because it 'buggers the buses' and they can't be bothered fixing them.

I was shocked by what was being said...this was only some of it....

and were complaining about parents getting on with buggys and how the bus lowering mechanism 'buggers up the
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