How many adults do you buy for and how much do you spend?

(57 Posts)
brokenshoes Fri 22-Nov-13 16:28:36

Between us, DH and I buy presents for:

Each other
My parents / PILs
My sister
His sister
Two grandads

We spend about £20 per head. Doesn't sound much each, but just realised that's £200!

LovelyWeatherForDucks Sun 24-Nov-13 19:50:09

DH - not sure but keeping it small as we are both getting new iPhones <£100 - stockingy bits
My parents-£30 on my mum and about £90 on my dad this yr (joint with Xmas, special present this year)
His parents - About £25 plus some digital family photos on a USB stick
DS godparents - about £20 (food hamper)
Dsis and BIL - about £20
BIL1- £28 on a shaving set
BIL2 and DW-to-be - about £25 (food hamper in a big baking dish)

So usually £20-30 per person/couple

plus DS, a niece and nephew, and a few tiny token presents for extended family we are seeing on Xmas day

Hadn't thought about how much it adds up!! But really pleased with presents chosen this year and I love giving gifts!

lade Sun 24-Nov-13 19:34:56

I buy for:

Mum, dad and brother. About £50 - £75 each.

My grandparents (x2) about £20 - £30 each.

My aunt and her family £20 (family gift)

DH about £100

DH sorts out his own family.

I don't subscribe to the Christmas is for kids philosophy. Personally, I like to show my appreciation to my parents for Christmas as they do so much to help. Of course, I try all year round and buy my mum the odd bunch of flowers every now and then, just to say thanks, but it's so easy for life to get into the way. Christmas is a nice time of giving, and to say thanks for all the things they do for us.

Bertrude Sun 24-Nov-13 11:13:38

4 x parents
4 x siblings (28 - 34 years old)
100 quid each, 3 things to open each.

6 adult friends (we are a group of 4 childless couples and are all expats so few if any pressies from family to open), max 20 quid each, but it MUST be the most ridiculous thing possible. Last year one bloke received a USB hub that looked like anal beads. I got a she-wee.

Then husband and he gets stupid amounts spent on him because he has expensive tastes

Mum
Stepdad
Sisters x3
Dad
Stepmum
Bil
Grandad
Stepgrandparents x4
Family friends x7
My parents I spend 20
Sisters around 15
Everyone else between 5 and 10
I actually buy for quite afew people and thats not including kids shock

Bumblequeen Sat 23-Nov-13 23:10:05

We stopped buying gifts for each other several years ago. We buy for the dc and focus on having nice food and drink.

As a teen/in my early 20's, I enjoyed buying gifts for friends/family. I do miss those days less responsibilities and more money.

AuditAngel Sat 23-Nov-13 21:49:58

For my family:
Dad a book £15, usually accompanied by tin of sweets
DM black pearl necklace (€10 in market in Greece)
DSis1 amethyst necklace and bracelet (€10 in market in Greece)
DSis2 not saying as she comes on here grin
DB nothing
BIL book £5
DNephew book £6
DN wife silly socks £4

DH about £350 on various including new ski jacket plus gloves and base layer, body warmer plus stocking

Then for DH's family it is a £50 secret santa from each of us.

Plus I have got a groupon voucher for photo calendars for DM, MIL and assorted aunties and cousins abroad

NewChoos Sat 23-Nov-13 21:20:36

Loads, IL's are very generous, we try to be very thoughtful back.
PIL £150
SIL £120 ish (single, we buy her lots as she buys for all of us).
SIL (plus her DH and DN) £150

Finally managed to get my sisters to agree to no presents last year, still buying for adult nephews and nieces though so approx £100 (Although never see 2x nephews!!).
BF £35 molton Brown gift set
DH no set budget but we really both have said we don't need anything this year.
DS £300
Baby DD £100
oh and Nursery 8x approx £5 presents.

My mum (?)
My gran (chocs and an xmas plant)
My gran and papa (biscuits and an xmas plant)
My dad and s-mum (big box chocs)
My aunt and uncle and 1 cousin (tub celebrations)
Usually dsis and her dp but have agreed not to this yr as costs spiralling grin
My fil and s-mil (him ? her a jl voucher & xmas plant)
BIL and his dp (vouchers)

Ranging from £5-£20 on each relative (or group).

randomAXEofkindness Sat 23-Nov-13 15:35:26

We don't buy for other adults. We get each other something if we feel especially flush, which isn't very often, but I know that dh has bought me a netbook & camera this year - which I didn't expect and am extremely feckin chuffed about.

I hate the politics that goes along with buying for the relatives. I'd get people meaningful, well thought out gifts, for the right reasons, if I lived in disney world. But I don't. They'd probably cost 50p and be handmade. Or dh would have whatever job the dad of Home Alone had, those guys were loaded.

EeyoreIsh Sat 23-Nov-13 15:10:58

I'm not broke now, but going on maternity leave in 4 weeks so I need to restrain my spending from now on really.

Philoslothy Sat 23-Nov-13 14:40:57

But why do you have to continue?

CharlotteBronteSaurus Sat 23-Nov-13 14:40:00

too many
we mooted the idea of either doing a £50 secret santa, or just exchanging token presents with the ILs. this went down like a lead balloon.

so we continue to spend £30-40 each on BIL, 2xSILs, MIL and FIL, as well and about £20 each on GMIL and GFIL.

thankfully my family are happy with a chocolate orange and summit for thew DC.

Philoslothy Sat 23-Nov-13 14:35:31

If you are broke, don't buy it. Someone who cares for you would not want a present that they cannot afford to buy.

Preciousbane Sat 23-Nov-13 14:32:09

DH only

He buys for his Mum,Dad and Sis. I don't get involved.

EeyoreIsh Sat 23-Nov-13 14:27:37

DH £100 - one large present

DM £20
DF £20
Joint present for parents £30

DSIS £30
BIL £15
Nieces and nephew £20-30 each
Joint present for their family £45

DH's nephew £20

In theory, DH should buy for his family but I usually end up doing this.

No wonder I'm broke sad

Philoslothy Sat 23-Nov-13 14:23:01

We don't buy for one another.

We don't buy presents for family as such because they can't afford to buy back.

Mum - £40ish
Dad - £40ish
Friend one - £15ish
Friend 2 family gift - £15ish
Dp - £100ish
One secret santa - £5ish

We gave up on buying gifts for other adults years ago.

WooWoo86 Sat 23-Nov-13 13:58:17

I just but for my mum and dad, usually about £75 each and then we do a secret Santa for the adults so just 1 more person at £20. So glad we do secret Santa as save on loads of unwanted pressies and expense. Usually means I but myself something with the money I've saved.

jamtoast12 Sat 23-Nov-13 13:25:25

Mum and dad £75 each, dh £100. Don't buy siblings, just their kids at £15 each (there's 7 of them).

ThreeMyselfAndI Sat 23-Nov-13 09:59:32

we buy for

myparents/dh parents beteem £60/100 each side

dhs grand parents around £40 each.

we don't buy for sibling's excpet dh's little sister but she's only 9.

madamecake Sat 23-Nov-13 08:35:39

DH - between £50-100, and he spends the same on me.
Then DM, DF, DMIL, DFIL, DB1, DB1's gf, DB2, DB2's gf, DB3, DSIL and DBIL - all about £30 each.

That adds up to a lot more than I thought it would confused

notthefirstagainstthewall Sat 23-Nov-13 08:32:22

I have 28 to buy for ( including 5 family members with December birthdays who I have to buy twice for).
This includes secret Santa at work and small neighbour gifts (one has children we buy for and the others have children we donate our second hand toys too).

TeaAndCakeOrDeath Sat 23-Nov-13 08:29:53

SIL and husband - £40
Other SIL and partner - £20
My Mum - £30
My Brother - £20
My aunt - £10
My uncle - £10
My grandmother - £10
DPs best friend and wife - £20
Family friend 1 - £10
Family friend 2 and partner - £20
Distant family we only see at xmas - £10
My 2 best friends - £5 each

And then DP, not sure what his final spend will be yet... Expensive business this xmas lark!

Woldyhool Sat 23-Nov-13 08:19:33

My parents - but only small things from the children, because my mother just gives everything to charity immediately so it isn't worth it.

My sister and SIL. (who are married to each other, there isn't a missing bloke we refuse to give presents to!) smile

That is it really. Oh and something for the couple upstairs who are brilliant.

mumtoone1 Sat 23-Nov-13 08:16:42

Forgot about SIL2.... Katy Kidston various goodies about £15... So that's 17 adults now!

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