Christmas present - too expensive?

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Netguru Sun 04-Nov-12 10:40:27

I'm married for a second time. My first (replacement) wedding ring had a large diamond in it - I adored the ring but unfortunately, after 20 years, not the husband!

My husband now is an absolute sweetie. My wedding ring has a large sapphire in it which he joked when we bought it that he would replace with a diamond if/when he could. No chance - I adore it as it is.

He's coming into a large sum (just under 100k) in a week or so and wants to spend a little more in Christmas than normal. He's offered to spend up to 4k on a ring for me - and I've found one I like. He's going to buy the kids a couple of nicer than normal bits and himself a new desktop mac. Then save the rest/pay off some of the mortgage.

We are not short of money by any stretch of the imagination but I can't help but think 4k on a ring is a little extravagant. I have looked to find one I like for less but can't - and would feel one which was 'ok' would be a bigger waste of money.

He genuinely wants me to be happy. Can't help but think I should be happy with less. To be honest, if I didn't get a ring I genuinely wouldn't mind. But he's right, we can afford it.

Can't help but wonder what I should do. He wants to share a percentage of his good fortune which is lovely.

I know it's a nice dilemma to be in and we are very fortunate. My BF said I should find something nice that I wouldn't buy myself like a pair of jimmy choos for example, which would be equally frivolous but less expensive. Can't find any inspiration on that but still looking.

noviceoftheday Mon 05-Nov-12 10:43:15

Oh can you get settings tightened? I didn't know that! I will ask when I go in. It's this one so hope they can do that. www.tiffany.co.uk/Shopping/item.aspx?mcat=&sku=GRP02372&selectedsku=22660837&cid=&search=1&search_params=s+1-p+1-c+-r+-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+cross+pendant&fromgrid=1 It's the diamond at the top of the cross.

whoneedstosleep Mon 05-Nov-12 10:53:49

I think you can depending on the cut of the diamond. I have been looking for the 'perfect' eternity ring for 4 years now! Haha
I always end up wanting something else...ipad/watch/holiday. I think DH thinks he's gotten away with buying one!

cerealqueen Mon 05-Nov-12 10:59:21

A lovely ring or maybe a watch which you will wear every day and get pleasure from? You can afford it, go for it.

Netguru Sat 29-Dec-12 19:59:00

Update.

As a result of this thread, and a direct suggestion on it, I started looking at watches. For some odd reason it felt less extravagant. We settled on a lovely Cartier watch and I'm very happy with it.

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