Your Teen wins....

(156 Posts)
TopsyRK Mon 28-Jan-13 17:04:32

Your teen wins as soon as you raise your voice, they are looking for conflict.

Your rules should always be...

Ask first
Tell second
Punish third

Ask them to do something, if no reaction, then tell them, if no reaction punish them, never raise your voice or argue with them as you are the parent.

Trust me not easy but it works

Chris

QOD Mon 28-Jan-13 17:09:30

Umm ok

Have you got teens?

they're evil

MrsPresley Mon 28-Jan-13 17:17:14

Seriously, will that really work?

Why didn't someone tell me that when my eldest became a teen 27 years ago, then her sister, then her brother, could have saved me lot of shouting discussions.

Never mind, fingers crossed, I'll see if it works with the youngest not a hope in hell

PS, it didn't work when I was a teen either grin

threesocksmorgan Mon 28-Jan-13 17:18:32

thanks Chris
that doesn't work by the way

noddyholder Mon 28-Jan-13 17:18:35

If I had followed those rules I would have been toast

TopsyRK Mon 28-Jan-13 17:19:52

Yes had 4 teens and worked with teens for over 16yrs.

(PS in case your wondering no not a troll :-) )

And yes it does work

Chris

Foggles Mon 28-Jan-13 17:20:06

You missed out a line...

and repeat

TopsyRK Mon 28-Jan-13 17:20:56

No never repeat

threesocksmorgan Mon 28-Jan-13 17:23:08

who is Chris?

it doesn't work

Foggles Mon 28-Jan-13 17:27:21

Seriously?

So, after one cycle of ask/tell/punish - your teens always did as they were asked first time?

What kind of punishments did you dole out?

TopsyRK Mon 28-Jan-13 17:33:14

I was saying never repeat yourself say it only once....

Of course you may need to repeat it the next day etc...
Chris

TaggieCampbellBlack Mon 28-Jan-13 17:34:02

You are wrong.

I have only ever had to ask once.

I am perfect as are my teenagers.

Ah well that told us didn't it.

Hullygully Mon 28-Jan-13 17:39:59

I am so glad you were there for me Chris

Foggles Mon 28-Jan-13 17:40:01

I only have to raise my eyebrows.

Hullygully Mon 28-Jan-13 17:41:21

Oh but Chris you don't have any children

How did you come by your precious knowledge?

noddyholder Mon 28-Jan-13 17:42:11

I think any teenager who doesn't rattle your cage isn't doing their job properly and is not preparing for life without you where they will not always want to toe the line and obey rules

Hullygully Mon 28-Jan-13 17:42:18

<mind boggles at ask, tell, punish>

wah hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

Go have some teens, Chris old bean, and then come and tell us how that's working out for you

BackforGood Mon 28-Jan-13 17:43:49

Gosh - whoever would have thought it?
So glad you have imparted that drop of wisdom.
Life will be plain sailing for us all now.

QOD Mon 28-Jan-13 17:46:29

Such fun!

noddyholder Mon 28-Jan-13 17:46:44

What about Arse Kick repeat

noddyholder Mon 28-Jan-13 17:47:05

Or wine pour ignore grin which was what I did

Foggles Mon 28-Jan-13 17:49:45

I like wine/pour/ignore grin

My DH's maxim with his teenage daughters would be: Tell first. That's it. (there is no need for any more steps). Amazingly it works.

And no, he has never hit them or punished them (well, not since they were teengares anyway which is the only way I have known them. I think when they were little they may have got sent to their room).

PS I would be on the "wine pour ignore plan" if it had ever been up to me, but given that they have never needed telling twice on anything, I never needed any techniques!

TwllBach Mon 28-Jan-13 17:51:47

<settles in with biscuits>

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