Ttc after recent mc, for Creme egg scoffers, shared confusion and joint cursing of mother nature

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I couldn't bring myself to call her a bitch, we still need her help! Come on ladies, let's do this thing....

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 21:40:31

After a failed attempt I linked it - I am new, lots to learn!

IBelieveInPink Wed 06-Feb-13 21:40:47

Thanks for new Fred thunder.
Me and mr blue (yes, we do conform to stereotypes) have decided February is going to be a happy month, with lots of enjoying life, and no more being sad. Yay. Now if I could just find my damned af......

shellshock7 Wed 06-Feb-13 21:50:04

New thread! Thanks thunder smile

I'm not from SW, don't like cider and favour WW over SW when dieting....can I still come play?!

So, still symptom spotting like mad...even this thread title made me tear up (why is Mother Nature so cruel) and its been the same all day hmm. It's rubbish cos all early pregnancy signs could just be signs of AF!

diyqueen Wed 06-Feb-13 21:53:26

Yes thunder you're right, we do want to keep in her good books - love the title! Ranting over from me for the moment, going to try to follow your positive example pink. Should probably start by going to wash up instead of sitting on the sofa eating chocolate (smarties this time) and mumsnetting. Night night.

chocolateteabag Wed 06-Feb-13 22:06:17

Thanks Thunder - will try to be nicer to her, just wish she was a bit nicer to us!

Hi Amelie - sorry you are here but plenty of Creme eggs and shouty ness to go around.

JanieLovesHerThreeLeggedCat Wed 06-Feb-13 22:20:49

thanks for he new thread thunder (although I'm still hiding in the corner in embarrassment at my SW/SW silliness)

Hi Amelie sorry to see you here, unfortunately there's no set time for AF to come back - some 2/3 weeks, mine didn't appear for 10 weeks. fx yours comes soon

ibip yay for positive thinking! it's my birthday month so i'm planning muchos fun.

bump we're defo going to try to dtd more...and more for fun than for a mission to get pg... but always so bloody knackered at the end of the day. maybe i should read 50 shades again... ;)

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 22:24:42

And i also love the name, thanks thunder!

shellshock that's probably a good thing, I was starting to think the south west may have somehow been in cahoots with Mother Nature!

bzzbee Wed 06-Feb-13 22:40:09

Nice to see the new thread, had my first creme egg of the year earlier ;-)
Had another crazed day of chocolate craving, the egg was the last in a long line of junk, yikes.

I think I am now also having a wtf cycle. Having had ov pains this week (on BOTH sides, one after the other, weird) I had some (TMI alert!) bright red pink spotting today. I hope it's nothing to worry about, they say it's a concern if bleeding doesn't stop within 2 weeks of mc and the two week mark was last Friday for me. I'll see how it goes. I feel totally pre menstrual (choc excuse) and generally rubbish and hormonal, sigh...
Did anyone else have anything like this?

x

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 22:50:58

Bzzbee - I had those sort of feelings when I had the one in October - I also bled for a long time (don't want to scare you sorry, I'm sure yours will be ok - they said it was unusual) but they said it wasn't anything to worry about health wise - I was continuously bleeding at intermittent levels though for that time - did you stop bleeding for a bit or has it been continuous?

grotbagz Wed 06-Feb-13 22:54:23

Also could it be your periods just being a bit mad - I had what was apparently mine as the last week of the continuous bleeding - but came on again a week or so later so maybe it's just your body working itself out?

Lucky13ForBaby Thu 07-Feb-13 07:05:31

Thanks for the new thread. Depressing i must have been on about 4 now sad at least this one invves chocolate! Mother Nature has sure been cruel to us all. Can add me to the rubbish January cycle. Started spotting last night. Think I maybe tempted with a morning creme egg today ! Bzz- I also bleed for over 2 weeks and had very long strange cycles post both mc. Always good to seek medical advice for peace of mind though. L
Lets hope February is kinder to us all, bring on the valentines baby's!

Bakingtins Thu 07-Feb-13 08:00:16

Hi everyone. Seems I may have written off January too early - tested again this morning and got a BFP shock. Was thrilled, told DH and burst into tears. Still not sure if they are happy or terrified ones confused.
This is my last chance - we're both agreed if I MC again we are not trying any more. I feel like the die is cast, we're stuck with that egg and that sperm and hoping they were good'uns. Whatever will be, will be and there is not a damm thing I can do about it. Let's hope fate is kinder to us this time around.
Hope this is a positive omen for the rest of this thread and that everyone gets their BFP in the next 1000 messages. smile

SQUEEEEEEE!

tins! Welling up here. Congrats! Can't stop to write more but had to send a squeal! x x

SpanishLady Thu 07-Feb-13 08:32:04

Bakingtins -many congrats - this is wonderful, lovely news! Sending you all best wishes and anything at all that might help - am convinced positive vibes help!

Can I ask a question from ladies who have MC'd before? whats the story about baby asprin? I have had one MC and there was nothing when I was scanned so even if they had wanted to (and they dont) think they would struggle to have something to test.

I do not have any known blood problems but nor do I want to have to go through another MC if this asprin was the answer....is it more for recurrent MCs? am a bit confused!

SpanishLady Thu 07-Feb-13 08:37:06

Also my bleeding appears to have stopped - but I only bled for 6 days - does that seem right or I guess it could start up again as seen from other accounts that it can be on/off.

what are your views on trying again before afp - eg if I can catch when I next ovulate shoudl I try or am I doing damage? My DH wants to wait until I have had a normal period to make sure I have recovered which I know makes sense but....

JanieLovesHerThreeLeggedCat Thu 07-Feb-13 09:25:36

oh bakingtins i'm sooooo delighted for you!!! grin grin grin congratulations! you have totally made my day!! fx for a sticky one!!! i have a good feeling about this!!

and that's it - name change ahoy! something to do with baking perhaps?

spanish sorry i don;t know anything about babay aspirin. but that's good that you're bleeding has stopped. be prepared just in case it might start up again a little bit. re. trying again, if you;re ready and the bleeding has stopped then there's no real reason to wait. some people's first AF since MC was crazy heavy - with a bit of leftovers (for want of a better word). i had a d&c and bled for about 2 weeks and my AF was pretty normal when it came. hope you are keeping ok xx

SpanishLady Thu 07-Feb-13 09:36:09

thanks Janie - appreciate your reply!

bzzbee Thu 07-Feb-13 10:16:40

Fantastic news BakingTins - many many congratulations smile

So nice to come on here and read some good news.

What is your ttc history, if you don't mind me asking, as i only joined the thread a couple of weeks ago?

x

bzzbee Thu 07-Feb-13 10:25:17

On an entirely separate note...is it a good/bad idea to apply for a new job so soon after mc?
I was quite fed up with work at the end of last year (very negative atmosphere, poor management support, etc), but then got a BFP and thought it made sense to just stick at it, take mat leave (very generous where I work) etc.

Coming back after mc has been doubly hard because I'm back where i was in November work-wise (i think I'm slightly depressed by it all, at least that's my explanation for the tonnes of chocolate, no exercise, bad mood and general apathy). Right now I feel like I need work to be a positive thing in my life, more than ever. Whereas it's having the opposite effect. But it's tricky to distinguish hormonal from reality, IFYSWIM.
Though having been fed up in Nov kind of reassures me that this isn't just a knee-jerk/hormonal reaction.

Oh Sigh and Sigh again.

x

Zeuxippe Thu 07-Feb-13 10:34:13

Congratulations baking!! So excited for you and wishing you lots of luck xx yippee!!

spanish I remember you from the September 2013 due date thread, really sorry to hear that you have also suffered an mc.
sad I've been reading up quite a lot on when to start trying again. I think each couple has to do what feels right for them but personally we're going to wait until I get my first af afterwards. Reasons being: want to have at least some idea for dates, not sure I'm emotionally ready to try sooner, and some people say they've had a really heavy weird af after mc so would like to get that out of the way and have a fresh start, so to speak.

I think there's also some research that suggests you are more fertile in the 3 months after mc, so don't want to miss out on that. Hope that's of some help.

Oh no- tins had already changed her name to a B one from last time! What about food related? Could be pretty apt....

bzz I applied for a new job within weeks of my mc. I realised when it happened that the idea of being in the job and not going on mat leave within the next few months was not a happy one, which made me reassess what I wanted to do. Luckily a good job came up and now I'm on day 4 of my first week and I'm loving it! Obv depends on what you do and how stressful a change will be.

Hi spanish. I'm afraid I don't know about baby aspirin either but I do know that bleeding on and off, for varying amounts of time, is normal.

pink I love the positive attitude and have decided to follow suit. Sod sad.

On an amusing note I had a smear test today and the nurse said my cervix was being 'remarkably elusive'. I worried for a moment that it had fallen off. Luckily she found it in the end....

CoffeeForSally Thu 07-Feb-13 10:37:14

oh tins congratulations I'm SO pleased for you. Everything crossed for you.

Hooray for new thread and positive vibes (although yes, it's a bit depressing to still be here...) Sorry to see new names.

I'm a bit dubious about my prospects this cycle. I'm going away for work next week and the week after, so have to hope I O around the weekend in the middle so I can jump on DH when I get home.

(creme egg creme egg creme egg... becoming a bit obsessed)

hypnotisingchickens Thu 07-Feb-13 10:40:21

Oh Congratulations tins! Lovely lovely news - maybe it will start a little run of BFP's across this thread. And this could be our lucky thread! runs off to be optimistic..

bzzbee Thu 07-Feb-13 10:52:11

Thanks Thunder, I think I will go for it.
If nothing else it's a distraction, and a positive one at that.

And I will try and be more positive like the rest of you ;-)

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