WIBU to tell my Mum to grow up?

(12 Posts)
M0naLisa Fri 08-Feb-13 14:38:11

My mum is married to my stepdad. They argue (who doesn't) she's very judgemental.
Bit of background.
Other week (I posted on here) I mentioned about DH and his ways. Anyway he's been doing school and a lot more and what not. She called me up on Monday and said to me 'why is DH doing the school run?' So I said 'cos he is. He's their dad why shouldn't he do it?' He had no answer. I told her she moans at me when DH doesn't do school run and yet moans when he does. angry I can't win.

Yesterday DH dropped me and kids at mums. He was going to a mates house who he's not seen in months (one of his best mates)

About an hour later DH rings me telling me he'd broken down, his phone has been cut off so he had to walk to nearest factory and use security phone (broke down just past an industrial estate)

Told my mum and she said very nastily.
'Whts he been doing for the past hour if he's only there (where he broke down)?'
I said he'd been trying to get it going. She sighed and stormed off to the kitchen on when were home or on way home.
Stepdad sai he'd take us, but mum started shouting saying he had no money.

I asked stepdad if he'd take me down to where he was, his phones been cut off so he could use mine and ring RAC. Sister said her and the boyfriend would bring the 3 children home later. Mum asked what i was doing with ds3 (10 weeks old) i said sister will bring him home later with the other ds. She sighed and asked why i couldnt tale jim with me!!! i said cos its freezing outside and why can't he stay here with her where its warm. Mum started effing and blinding in front of the kids at stepdad. Stepdad and I walked out to get in car, stepdad upset at the way she spoke to him.

She has been finished from work as its seasonal work. Stepdad has told her that she needs to stop going out on Fridays and Sundays and getting pissed cos they can't afford it. That's why she's pissed at him. He also spent his last £5 on her yesterday on a box of wine blush

Wibu to tell her she needs to frow up and sort herself out before stepdad fucks off and leaves her. He's at his wits end.

sorry its long.

M0naLisa Fri 08-Feb-13 14:39:40

Sorry for spelling mistakes. On phone

Paiviaso Fri 08-Feb-13 15:13:44

You mum sounds like she likes to stir.

I think YABU to tell her to sort herself out before her husband leaves her - this relationship is her business. She'd probably just explode at you anyway, judging from her behaviour in your post.

EldritchCleavage Fri 08-Feb-13 15:27:18

She may be worried about you, but equally she may just be in the habit of being very negative and judgmental, it's hard to tell. Either way, I would stay out of her marriage, and tell her very firmly to stay out of yours.

Whoknowswhocares Fri 08-Feb-13 15:41:40

Errrr yes yabu. getting involved with other people's relationships is always unreasonable!
Keep well out of it

diddl Fri 08-Feb-13 15:46:35

Sounds as if you tell her so much about your life that she feels she has a right to comment.

OTTMummA Fri 08-Feb-13 15:52:06

I would just stop talking to her about your marriage, things you have listed are really nothing to do with anyone else.
Also if she asks you about x, y, z just tell her its none of her business, or give vague replies.
I wouldn't give two figs about what she gets up to in her relationship either tbh, it shouldn't concern you at all.

She doesn't sound very nice tbh, i would just keep a cool distance for a while.

quoteunquote Fri 08-Feb-13 16:13:24

I'm glad you are being supportive of your step dad it sounds like he is going to need a lot of it.

M0naLisa Fri 08-Feb-13 17:15:19

The thing is dont tell mum anything. She didnt know DH had taken boys to school until he bumped into my auntie who takes her grand kids to same school. She rang mum to say I saw Lisa DH taking boys to school.

I can't fart in this town without someone ringing and telling my mum who's 25 miles away!! hmm

YesIamYourSisterInLaw Fri 08-Feb-13 19:18:49

Wow you sound very well rounded considering how your mum comes across.
Actually I don't think YABU and I think it also depends a bit on how long they've been together? If it was your mother and father people probably wouldn't think so much of you interjecting.
Your mum does sound like she needs to grow up a bit.

M0naLisa Fri 08-Feb-13 23:40:51

They've been married 8 years next week together about 10-11 yrs (I think) stepdad is most timid person you'd ever meet. Yet mum is opposite. As they say opposites attract.

M0naLisa Fri 08-Feb-13 23:41:26

Oh and she got her way again....she's been to the club this evening (catholic club - and no she's not catholic) lol

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