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we were all in the bed, this is the 2nd thread....roll over! roll over!

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ThatVikRinA22 Sat 02-Feb-13 01:26:21

so we all rolled over and hellebelles told us to get our arses out of bed......smile

ive started a new one because there are only a few posts left on the old thread before it gets full.

nana ive described myself on the old thread just for you! smile

so.

nana hellesbelles mama ed silvery and basset and any one else who posted on the old thread or who relates to our experiences and wants to post on the new one....welcome to the new thread.

old one here

HellesBelles396 Sat 02-Feb-13 02:20:31

Shock alert: I'm still awake! Currently cleaning blood off the landing carpet. Ds has bff staying over and three hours ago, they were bouncing on the bed. HDD lands head first on corner of radiator. Cue trip to a&e and hb stuck scraping up dried blood with baby wipes!

Unfortunatlyanxious Sat 02-Feb-13 06:29:04

Signing in, hello Vicar and everyone, have been on MH boards for a couple of weeks and just saw this properly.

I am signed off work, I have had episodes before, I am exhausted. Officially diagnosed with anxiety and depression but am being sent for a psychiatric assessment by my GP, who was very lovely to me.

I have just been in touch with friends to let them know I'm unwell again, couldn't face telling them till now. All were well you have your dreadful lows but also your amazing highs when you are the most fun, best laugh imaginable. One has a new bf, he apparently asked her if I was bi polar because of the way I am.

My dsis has bi polar and is very unwell sometimes, she has been sectioned more than once.

I have been thinking about this a lot over last couple of days. I do get very high and when I get like that I feel amazing but I always feel worried as I know it is followed by a low. The intensity varies. I do have germ phobia and also anxiety I'm sure but can you have more than one thing?

I do not want to march in to my assessment saying do you think I have bi polar.

But I am seriously questioning myself, I had an incredibly abusive childhood and the whole business is horribly complicated. I also work in a very difficult environment because quite a lot of my colleagues complain about each other but always to me, which is stressful.

Any advice most welcome.

HellesBelles396 Sat 02-Feb-13 06:58:46

hello, glad you felt able to share.

sounds like you have a lot of concerns about your mental health. to answer your questions: yes, you can have more than one condition. yes, you should say to the doctor "i've been worried that I have bipolar because..."

a couple of others on the thread have experience of having undergone therapy following childhood trauma and, I'm sure, would be happy to help.

it's Brill that you are open with those close to you and that they are able to offer support. make use of them - and us - whenever you need to.

Just checking in to new thread to get it on threads I'm on.

Welcome anxious.

Sorry helles I forgot you told me to go back to bed smile

Rocky night.....I'm supposed to be going to bed early but when I do I wake through the night...woke at 7....could of got out of bed...now I'm tired.

Lots to do today...I have the dcs. I'm going to try and do some baking with my wonderful neighbours children.

Oh and my shakes are much better today...

HellesBelles396 Sat 02-Feb-13 09:56:29

ps - fortunate (i'm picking the positive aspect of your name smile )

have you tried, as soon as they start, gently telling your colleagues something like "i can tell this issue with x is upsetting you and you want a resolution - he/she is free just now so this would be a good time to discuss it with him/her" then get on with some work so they can tell you're not going to listen to them?

unless you're employed as the official workplace counsellor; in which case, you'll just have to put up with them bringing their problems to you wink

I wish I got out of bed at 7am....because now I'm stuck and don't want to .....

GobblersKnob Sat 02-Feb-13 10:42:01

Hello everyone, I wonder if I qualify? I could do with joining a support thread, this is the year I HAVE to get better.

I am a lovely mix of very long standing depression, GAD, Health Anxiety and OCD. I am three years into my current therapy and since Christmas have been having a bit of a crappy relapse. I have a wealth of CBT abd ACT knowledge if that is useful to anyone? smile

TheSilveryTinsellyPussycat Sat 02-Feb-13 10:59:21

Morning all. well I didn't glam up enough but the old me would have been blush blush but twas of course fine. Was greeted by the CEO of the Trust, we had quite a conversation re recovery and ESA, so networking success. Twas a lovely evening, nice to see all sorts of people from Psychosis Team to Hospital Housekeepers being rewarded.

Hello to all the new people. The crucial question is: how good are you at getting up in the morning wink?

HellesBelles396 Sat 02-Feb-13 12:31:30

And at going to bed at night?wink

oh! and washing up?

all recurring themes!

HellesBelles396 Sat 02-Feb-13 12:33:20

gobblersknob turning up qualifies you to be here! welcome smile

GobblersKnob Sat 02-Feb-13 12:33:55

Some mornings I am up like a lark full of chirp and straight into the shower, most some mornings, my bed is like a womb and the effort needed for me to vacate it does indeed feel like labour.

HellesBelles396 Sat 02-Feb-13 12:34:19

ed it doesn't matter what time you get up - just that you do wink

you have such a lovely day planned so hope you've made it out of bed.

HellesBelles396 Sat 02-Feb-13 12:35:09

ah gobblersknob - you have found your mn home on this thread grin

GobblersKnob Sat 02-Feb-13 12:36:02

Thank you HB396 smile

Cross post.

Going to bed I am excellent at, happy to crawl in at any time, bed time is happy time grin

Wahing up? Work of the fecking devil, where does it all bastard come from?

GobblersKnob Sat 02-Feb-13 12:39:31

Then I will make myself at home

<draws up chair>

<gets comfy>

<starts checking arm for rash>

Nope, need to get up and do, but will be back.

Yay!

More people to talk to as I lay in my bed throughout the day smile

Just watch helles though...she's a hard task master at dragging us out of bed.

NanaNina Sat 02-Feb-13 13:02:17

Welcome to newcomers and GK you certainly share our dilemmas about the bed and getting up (or not). Liked your comment that bed is like a womb. You certainly have a horrible mixture of mental health issues.

UA - think you need to see a GP and describe your symptoms, because I'm sure you know there is a heredity component to mental illness.

Thanks Vicar for new thread. You sound really attractive, green eyes - wow how lucky are you. And your hair sounds lovely and you know yourself very well.......really enjoyed your description. Go on post a pic of you!

To newcomers I call my depression the Headmonster and he played a dirty trick on me and I woke up feeling good but then dipped down more or less as soon as I was up and in the shower. He is one nasty creature. Going to try to do foodshop which is long overdue, but not sure I am up to it.

With so many of us now I'm not sure I will be able to follow up everyone's comment with a reply.

I was just about to say the same nana....I think there will be a lot of comments that aren't personalised. Please don't take it personally....this dawned illness has crippled my usually fab memory.

ThatVikRinA22 Sat 02-Feb-13 13:53:34

hi to everyone, nana and ed and welcome to gobblers and unfortunately
unfortunately - if you nip back to the latter pages of the old thread i describe in detail about something called "rewind" therapy for childhood abuse/trauma. works amazingly well and only takes one session - a bonus is that you dont have to talk through the trauma - it all happens in your head. It worked for me. Im happy to go over how it works again if you need a lowdown, or have a google of it.I cant remember what page i talked about it on....

helles your night sounds like it was eventful....you poor thing! Hope your DD is ok.

I hope mama and basset find their way over here too....

I got up fairly early this morning, went into town to bank appt with DS and now have a 3rd party mandate set up on his bank account so i can keep my beady eye on it....

Ive not made it to the stables today unfortunately - by the time i got out of the bank it was late, had to nip into town and walked back home - because im out tonight with DH at this flipping works do thing i thought id probably not have much time there before id have to come home and get ready....so am going tomorrow instead. I was worried i would get stuck into jobs and not want to leave - i prefer to just go and stay until ive finished what im doing.

ed glad your shakes are better today - mine are so far too, but they get quite noticable when i do start.

Right - id better go and grab a bite to eat (im living on rice crispies) and think about having a bath and washing hair.....i will think about it for a long time probably without doing it....i really really do not want to go to this thing tonight - im really not feeling much like socialising - especially with DH bosses....sad

Shakinstevie Sat 02-Feb-13 14:46:21

Hi I read other thread and have been lurking for a while, so much of what i read is hitting home. I have had anxiety issues since I had dd1, I had CBT and was on citalopram for a year as was having major panic attacks, I was off my work for approx 6 months, this was 8 years ago and since then I have always struggled but just accepted this is the kind of person I am and tried to get on with life, which I have and I am generally a happy person who enjoys life.

I now have a job where I am working with a great team and we all respect each other, so am in a perfect situation, but now I find myself in certain situations where I am given a certain few jobs to do and I am good at these jobs but I keep thinking something will happen when I do this and I won't be able to cope, the result being I get myself worked up and when I am carrying out certain task my hands shake and I get palpitations. I try all the old tricks as in breathing exercises etc but there is only so much ou can do whilst still trying to appear confident in front of your client. I feel although I have been in my role for approx 10 years and have a good amount of experience behind me that I am not good enough, no one makes me feel like this, only myself.

I also have a degree of health anxiety, which doesn't help and was diagnosed with a heart murmur and partial right bundle branch block this year but have been told by cardiology that both these conditions are not significant and to live a normal life. So therefore getting myself in a stew about things I feel this does not help my heart.

If I am getting into a stressful situation I feel I can't cope well, and my job is full of stressful situations. My choices I suppose are to see gp, and be recommended on an ssri, but feel I can't take time off work as we have new policies and I am on the edge of being monitored I think, due to recent chest infections, so am in a bit of a catch 22.

I confessed my anxiety to my teamleader last week and she said she would never have known as I always look so calm so I suppose that's a good thing, I think I just want something to break the cycle but then I suppose that's the thing as anxiety is a chain.

I also feel when I have read threads like these before and have been away to post that maybe it has exacerbated my anxiety and have stayed away but in reality I think I am trying to hide from the truth.

I have wittered on too much

HellesBelles396 Sat 02-Feb-13 14:54:09

shakinstevie you didn't witter at all. I am sure your work would rather you saw a gp now than pushed on and end up having some sort of emotional collapse whuch would cause you to be off for ages.

I am glad you felt able to post. I too sometimes feel unable that we enable each others depressive traits but when I read back, I see congratulations for steps forward, encouragement to take control and genuine empathy for each others situations. hopefully, it seems that way to others too.

Welcome.

I have also wondered if I am perpetuating a depressive cycle by being here. But I don't think I am. I am not here as much when I am having a productive day BECAUSE I am having a productive day.

Sometimes I even force myself to clear my kitchen in the evening just so helles will nice me a gold star smile

bassetfeet Sat 02-Feb-13 16:31:54

Hello to anxious,gobbler and shakin Good to meet you smile
This is a lovely thread to offload and advise each other or just chat about our day /time spent under the duvet and our lives . Thanks to Vicar for starting this . And all posting .

Vicar ...you will be fine tonight . You will . When you have had enough, tell DH you are going home . Curl your lip and shrug at the bosses being lecherous [one of those looks we girls can do ]. It is a testament of how much better you are feeling that you are going at all . Bet you look beautiful .Tomorrow another demon laid to rest in that you went and did it for your DH. Doesnt matter a jot whether you stayed minutes or a few hours .

Got the typing away with myself fingers again and dont want you all having noses pressed down on the keyboard snoring . So:

All good here chez Basset . My DH has cancer and his latest blood tumour marker blood results are almost non detectable . It is an aggressive sort so we are sky high with relief . Had a superb walk today in the sunshine . Met lots of dogs and wee ones . Very blessed . Still didnt manage to get out of bed until 11am though . Scared to start the day and be available and on my toes .

Hope all of us have a good evening .thanks

HellesBelles396 Sat 02-Feb-13 17:06:06

vicar - I agree with basset re tonight. just making the effort and going - no matter how long for - is an accomplishment.

good news about your dh basset, really pleased for you both.

here in the bellefry, we're having another bloody sleepover! this time my cousin is staying here because my mum's heating us on the blink. he's 19 and has down's syndrome and it's the first time I've had him overnight. already had ructions with ds re sleeping arrangements and state of his room (ds v tired after last night's sleepover/bloodbath).

ooh, but I got the blood out of the carpet with saltwater grin hurrah!

was thinking of going out for tea but checked bank balance sad on plus side, that means I can stay in sweats (only been in them two hours!)

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