We will try anything! The big fat posifrickintivity thread of TTC after MC

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GuffSmuggler Fri 14-Jun-13 15:51:41

A new thread for all you lovely, crazy ladies. Here's to lots of BFPs!

OneLittleToddleTerror Fri 14-Jun-13 16:06:51

Checking in! Seeing we are all so down today, we definitely need some big fat posifrickintivity.

camomile hope you had a lovely honeymoon. I know what you mean by you ought to have a sticky bean by now. The text reminded me that my second MC was supposed to due in Oct/Nov. We could have been on maternity together sad.

katatonic Fri 14-Jun-13 16:28:22

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

alyant79 Fri 14-Jun-13 16:47:23

I like the new thread name guff

what happens if the thread hits 1000 anyway? do all our computers explode? wink

OneLittleToddleTerror Fri 14-Jun-13 16:55:50

katatonic is this your cycle 0? It was really wtf for me. I had my AF on 9dpo on my wtf cycle. I think also ovulated on week 3. It is all back to normal for me in cycle 1. Currently at 12dpo. I guess I should be happy that at least it is long enough a luteal phase for implantation. Instead of feeling so down.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 14-Jun-13 17:44:51

*The thread rules cut and pasted from the previous ones:
For all of the newbies, here are the thread rules courtesy of Santa:
POAS Rules*
<<usurps thunder's dictatorship complex>>

(1) A lady may only POAS on a Friday.
(2) Friday means the day that everyone calls Friday in the time zone where you spent the night.
(3) Rule (1) does not apply to POA-OPK-S
(4) Rule (1) does not apply following a BFP because if you want to waste £25 a day POADigiS that's your prerogative <<refuses to admit that's what I'll do>>
(5) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady is POAS in an attempt to get a BFN to prove she can start DTD with intent
(6) Rule (1) does not apply if a lady wants for unknown reason to pee on an actual stick, like a twig or some such, if that lady is unexpectedly caught short whilst tramping in the forest looking for bears.
(7) These rules (including Rule (1)) are subject to the change at any time if the ladies of the Posifrickentivity thread decide on a whim come up with empirical evidence to prove that it is luckier to POAS on any other day of the week
(8) Violators of Rule (1) shall be subject to fish throwing.

By the way, welcome (not that that's quite the right word, but you know what I mean) to all the other ladies who so sadly find themselves here. Its great fun, everyone is lovely and not at all psychotic!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 14-Jun-13 17:45:20

Flipping bold fail!!

Misspositivity Fri 14-Jun-13 18:03:02

Hey just marking my wee spot. Thanks to those who have accepted me for the mad symptom spotter but job I am and still want me around

As for mouth ulcers - I don't think these are a symptom might hav made that on up.

camomile hope u had a lovely honeymoon

I think we should add a new rule that you can't poas more than 1 day before your period. I literally would save a small fortune

kata. It's not called the wtf cycle for nothing. My next cycle seemed to have clicked back in both time though or maybe just maybe a BFP is heading your way.

Misspositivity Fri 14-Jun-13 18:03:40

But job. Lol. Meant nut job. !!!!

katatonic Fri 14-Jun-13 18:16:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Misspositivity Fri 14-Jun-13 18:23:10

katatoni sorry missed that it's cycle 1. Opening a bottle sounds like a good idea. Shall join you.

I am cramping loads so think its game over for miss positivity.

Smep for me this month too.

Penguinita Fri 14-Jun-13 19:03:07

Just marking my place on the new thread! But not with a wee spot like missp (isn't that what dogs do to lamposts??) grin

I'm currently on cycle 0 too and it is totally wtf, it is day 29 post MC and still waiting for my BFN on blood test due next Tuesday. No sign of OV yet on bbt so looks like this cycle will be at least 44 days!

So I'm going to a friend's house for cocktails tonight, but feeling a bit sad as last time I did that was the day after I found out I was pg and I had to make excuses for not drinking and go home early. Hope I don't end up in a blubbering mess tonight at the memory!

I like the bold rules saggy, fits in with your new dictator style grin

Rockchick1984 Fri 14-Jun-13 19:22:29

Marking my place! I've done SMEP this month and now in 2ww so will let you know how I get on - hopefully by declaring a BFP in a fortnight grin

alyant79 Fri 14-Jun-13 19:50:13

oh my cam i forgot to welcome you back from honeymoon!
penguin i hope you're enjoying your cocktails and not spiking them with tears

I've had a couple of beers at a work do that I didn't want to go to because I've been feeling miserable all day. Going to go home now and sulk as i'm still getting very suspicious AF-like cramps (not due til tuesday but would't be surprised if she comes early)

BirdsDoIt Fri 14-Jun-13 20:10:09

Like the new thread name guff! And the bossy bold rules, saggy.

Can I join the rest of you down in the dumps? I've been feeling v pissed off for the last couple of days - i'm now on cd24 of cycle 1 (have had one AF since mmc) and according to my temping (first time I've tried it) I STILL haven't ov'd. After 9 consecutive days of DTD in hope, I feel this is a little unfair. I threw in the towel two days ago so we've had two days off but feeling really dispirited about it still. DTD just isn't so fun any more. Sigh. Part of me thinks if it's this difficult maybe we shouldn't bother. DH a bit bewildered by this latest development, unsurprisingly. Ah well, perhaps I'll feel better after the weekend. Off out for drinks now so perhaps that will help!

Must work on my posifrickintivity. Sorry everyone.

GuffSmuggler Fri 14-Jun-13 21:29:01

saggy do you get a fish slap for a bold fail? grin

birds I know what you mean, TTC really sucks the fun out of things and we seem to have the responsibility of it all - my DH too is perplexed by this 'go go go' and then 'oh no can't be arsed' approach, he doesn't know what to expect! I say have a few days break if you're feeling fed up with it all.

PS alyant it just won't let you post anything else more after 1000

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 14-Jun-13 22:05:06

Anyone want to second MissPositivities suggestion for an addendum to the rules? grin

Emki Fri 14-Jun-13 22:53:10

Hello all - just marking my spot and thank you for starting a new thread - great title!

Can I also join in on being down in the dumps? I've been close to tears for the last few days. My boss and his wife went for their 20 wk scan - it is nearly ( a week off) a year since I went for my 20 wk scan and found out there was no heart beat - also their baby is due the day my father died - yesterday i thought my head was going to explode with all the dates and anniversaries going through my head. I really thought I would be further along by now - oh yes I am, i had another MC and now surrounded by people who are due in September which is when that one would have been due ..... anyway - at least the sun came out for a bit today and I went and had a glass of fizz after work with a friend - its all just so hard. We are grieving, we loved our little beans and bumps and now we have no where to put that love.

I also want to agree with what someone said up thread - a colleague of mine has told me the story of his friend and wife who had lots of mcs and now have a baby - IT JUST DOESN'T HELP!!! But I smiled and said I was off to get a cup of tea .....

Well Im on CD12 - DH is working away but back at weekends and he just called saying he'll be home by midnight and might also be staying on Monday too ... whoopie as hoping my cycle will be nearly back to normal and i'll OV CD15 which is what happened before MC ...

Before I knew this I'd planned to go up and see him in Bristol where he is working - just for the night and taking the morning off work .... again I'm being slightly very obsessive when it comes to OV days - I dont' even know if ill OV then or not! But it'll be nice to get away - feel very stressed with it all - feel i've aged so much in the last year ...

Anyhoo - sorry about the me me me post! I've been so low I haven't wanted to post recently, but have been lurking ..... but as we're generally feeling a bit low - thought it might be ok .

Big UN mumsnet hugs to you all - here's to a lovely weekend and planning nice things for the week ahead - mine is a naughty night away with DH x

Emki Fri 14-Jun-13 22:56:34

Welcome home cam

BirdsDoIt Sat 15-Jun-13 08:51:43

emki I'm sorry you've been having a shitty time too. I found the 20 week mark really difficult too - my boss went for hers a few weeks ago (she's the same dates as I would have been). As someone said, you expect it to get easier with time - which it does, but then these episodes of going back to feeling so sad all over again really blindside you. I'm glad you've got a naughty night away planned to brighten the week ahead! I've decided this weekend I'm finally going to go through our wedding photos (two years on) and choose some good ones to put up on our walls - haven't looked at them for ages and it always makes me feel happy!

CamomileHoneyVanilla Sat 15-Jun-13 10:42:14

Sounds like lots of us having shitty times at the moment.

Emki - it doesnt come across as a 'me me me' post, don't worry. Please dont feel you can't post when youre feeling blue (if you want to). Posting here is always ok. Sorry you've got so many anniversaries coming up and really hope you get some good timing for your naughty night on Monday. DH working away from home sounds stressful. Lots of hugs.

Birds - I hope the photos are cheering you up today. I think I might do the same today as it sounds a good plan. I also go in and out of positivity. Although mine doesn't seem the standard two weekly swings atm, can go from happy to hysterical within minutes!

Hope people are generally feeling a bit better today. Alyant - how are you feeling today. Did you have a good wine/film night Katatonic? Was your cocktail evening ok in the end Penguin?

MissP - hoping she stays away!

Rockchick - sending positive vibes for a bfp your way.

Sorry if I've missed anyone, struggle with doing this on the phone.

In the spirit of the new thread title; this month I am currently eating pineapple under the delusion that this night help with implantation and because I love pineapple and I'm also starting evening primrose oil as my ewcm was disappointingly lack luster this month.

CamomileHoneyVanilla Sat 15-Jun-13 10:44:44

Oh, and I'm going on an alcohol detox after we've polished off the bottle of red we've sitting downstairs that is

Emki Sat 15-Jun-13 11:01:53

Morning! Feeling brighter today - being the weekend and not at work definitely helps! Also got a positive line on OV stick this morning .... A day or two or 3-5 earlier than I thought - only had one full cycle since erpc - so luckily dh home and we dtd this morning ... He is also very chuffed that I'm still planning to do the night away even though I won't be OV! I now need to start limbering up for more dtd action tonight and tomorrow! And next week when we are in Bristol - !!!

Thank you cam and birds and hope you have fun day sorting photos! Good therapy!

missp and rockchick sending lots of positive vibes your way.

Hope everyone ok x

If you are lurking mummy and tins {{{waves & hugs}}} xxx

Emki Sat 15-Jun-13 11:03:22

Oh and used preseed for the first time and off to buy pineapple shortly - I thought I needed to stay loyal to the thread's title!

Penguinita Sat 15-Jun-13 11:28:16

Hope everyone is feeling a bit more upbeat this morning! I am, the cocktail evening went well as the conversation didn't go anywhere near babies so I held it together. Now I have a thumping headache to show for it (ow).

And thanks to guff for starting the new thread and coming up with the new title. Although I thought the title of the last one was very witty, I was getting that sodding chumbawumba song stuck in my head for hours every time I checked the thread!

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