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to be annoyed with dh.

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boredofironing Sat 02-Feb-13 16:26:00

I have approx 2 stone to lose and have very little will power to stop eating crap. Hence being 2 stone too heavy.

Since Christmas I have been trying to be good. We have a family get together in March which I would like to be a little bit smaller for!

This week dh has bought me a box of belgium chocs (birthday pressie-as yet unopened), taken us all out for a curry (had chicken tikka and only ONE poppadom) and now has come back from being out with dd with a huge chocolate "best mum" 'medal'.

All very sweet, BUT very very tempting. This is how it is. Not always the box of chocs, but treats all the time. He doesn't put on weight and can't seem to understand how hard this is for me.

To be honest, I haven't done very well, only lost a few pounds, but I wish he'd buy me flowers or a book or something non-edible!!!! He does know I am trying to be good.

Humph.

Mogandme Sat 02-Feb-13 16:34:40

Do you think hes trying to sabotage the diet?

suppose he is trying to be nice but I can see why you are frustrated. I say lots of times I want to eat better and dp still brings home bits and pieces I think its because knows I rarely stick to it and prefer to walk or exercise more. maybe have a chat with him.about how it makes you feel, or regift it grin. good luck with your weight loss

HecateWhoopass Sat 02-Feb-13 16:38:41

Have you asked for his support and for him to not buy you chocs etc?

Stinkyminkymoo Sat 02-Feb-13 16:43:17

Aww that sucks! I need to lose 3 stone, I have found the my fitness plan app hugely helpful and it's shown my dh how many calories are in everything and has helped him be more supportive.

Stay strong and say no! Good luck, I know it's hard smile

boredofironing Sat 02-Feb-13 16:44:30

Hecate - I know, it is such the obvious solution here. I have not actually said the words "please don't buy me crap which I can eat", but I am sure he knows, as even dd (age 7) said as she presented me with my chocolate medal "can you eat it? I know you are on a diet". I said how much I liked it as a medal and could i keep it as a medal instead? Now it is hanging up in the kitchen looking at me.......

He is a lovely dh, and obviously mind my size. Which is good, but annoying at the same time.

HecateWhoopass Sat 02-Feb-13 17:01:54

Yeah, don't be so sure. grin

There's being 'on a diet', which seems to be a permanent state for some folks but which isn't actually about weight loss and appears to be more about saying "oooh, I really shouldn't have that bun, I'm on a diet, oh, ok then, how naughty..." or looking at themselves in the mirror and saying I am going to have to diet... but no actual diet happening grin

and then there's an actual weight loss plan from someone who is serious about losing weight.

It's possible that he thinks you're the former and not the latter. In which case, you have to communicate to him that you actually do mean you're on a diet. you're not on a 'diet' grin

DoJo Sat 02-Feb-13 18:07:36

Why not suggest some 'treats' he could get you which would fit in with your diet eg fresh raspberries or other fruit which is a bit of a luxury rather than chocolate? That way he will be able to get you something special without derailing your good intentions.

MrsBonkers Sat 02-Feb-13 18:14:38

Annoying yes, but you could have my DH who looks at everything I eat and says 'I thought you agreed to try and lose weight' that really sucks.
Good luck with your weight loss.

SkinnybitchWannabe Sat 02-Feb-13 18:18:03

Throw it all away and explain to him you're trying to lose weight and please don't buy you things like that again.
Im on Slimming World and if my oh asks if I'd like a 'treat' I tell him I'll have some prawns!!

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